One thing that never occurred to me when I became a mom was that anyone would care how many kids I had or how close together I had them.
My mom's two kids were 15 months apart, so that never seemed unusual to me. When Dylan was about six months old I remember how everyone at his "moms group" gaped at me in appalled silence when I announced that I was planning to have another baby. I was astonished, first of all, that it was thought of as such a shocking idea, and second of all that anyone would care how I personally chose to space my children.
I gradually got used to the comments and the looks. "Wow, you have your hands full!" Sometimes I wish I had two kids spaced exactly three years apart, which is apparently "normal," just so I can go out in public with them without attracting any attention.
Everyone's got an opinion. Sometimes people actually have nice things to say "You seem so together. If you can do what you do with three of them, the fourth one will be no problem."
But then there's those folks who clearly don't think I can handle the ones I have, and seem to think I've personally offended them somehow by daring to have a fourth one.
Everyone's got an opinion, you just have to let them all wash over you.
My mom's two kids were 15 months apart, so that never seemed unusual to me. When Dylan was about six months old I remember how everyone at his "moms group" gaped at me in appalled silence when I announced that I was planning to have another baby. I was astonished, first of all, that it was thought of as such a shocking idea, and second of all that anyone would care how I personally chose to space my children.
I gradually got used to the comments and the looks. "Wow, you have your hands full!" Sometimes I wish I had two kids spaced exactly three years apart, which is apparently "normal," just so I can go out in public with them without attracting any attention.
Everyone's got an opinion. Sometimes people actually have nice things to say "You seem so together. If you can do what you do with three of them, the fourth one will be no problem."
But then there's those folks who clearly don't think I can handle the ones I have, and seem to think I've personally offended them somehow by daring to have a fourth one.
Everyone's got an opinion, you just have to let them all wash over you.
